Amazing Felines - Cat Blog


To Spay or Not To Spay?

Overpopulation of cats is a very sad and very real problem. Kittens may be very cute to have around but the life they lead is often fraught with danger. I cannot count the number of times I see a dead body lying on the ground. There is also the risk of disease and malnutrition. There are so many unwanted kittens that it is hard to look for homes for them as the clinics and organizations who have them adopted out don't take in kittens anymore. They are always full. I have heard of the old adage "if you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem". It is the responsibility of owners to spay and neuter their pets. We already have so much homeless and unwanted kittens.

Besides preventing unwanted pregnancies, these provide several health benefits for your cats.

Neutered male cats are less likely to spray urine, lose the urge to fight, are less likely to escape and have decreased risk of mammary cancer.

Spayed female cats also have decreased risk of mammary cancer as well as lesser risk of ovarian and uterine cancer.

I've noticed in my female cats, that when they start coming into heat they often holler loud looking for a potential mate. They are restless and uncomfortable. Male cats start spraying when they come into heat and it's preferrable to have them neutered before this happens as this becomes a behavioral problem. Even after they are neutered they still have the tendency to spray.

Cats also have a tendency to increase their weight after the operation. I have not heard any explanation why this happens but in the case of my cats, this is true. My cat Peanut was 8 lbs before he was neutered and now he weighs 12 lbs. My female cat Sake' is even bigger and heavier than Peanut. Having 10 indoor cats, it is necessary to spay and neuter them. In turn, there is less aggression between them.

Another concern is for the growing population of feral cats. They don't belong to anybody but it would be better if they were taken to clinics to have them neutered and spayed. I know of organizations who do this, where they trap the animal, operate and then release it. But maybe as responsible human beings, we can also do our part in helping them. There are organizations who provide spaying/neutering services for free and some clinics which charge only minimal fees.

Do Cats Bathe?

Contrary to popular belief, cats do indeed bathe. Although, not all kitties are thrilled by the experience. It is better to start bathing them while they are young so that they get used to it.

Normally, cats do not emit any foul odor but sometimes their fur do get dusty. There are plenty of mild shampoo available in the market. For my kitties, I bathe them once a week during the hot months and only as needed during the rainy season. They have different personalities. Some just sit down, others struggle and for this I would need an assistant. I have one who really enjoys the experience, she even plays with the water.

I have heard people blame cats for causing asthma attacks. Well, I have asthma and they seldom trigger any attacks. The secret is just keeping them clean.


Losing a Pet

My beloved Cinnamon passed away 2 years ago. Time has helped to ease the pain of her loss, but she will always be in my heart and in my thoughts.

Helping You and Your Family Cope When A Pet Dies
A Family Member

A pet is often a member of the family. In fact, surveys show some interesting facts about pet owners: 84 percent consider their animals family members, 99 percent talk to their pets and 54 percent celebrate their pet's birthday.

The term "man's best friend" brings to mind unconditional love, constant companionship and acceptance. And why not? Your pet can take you for a walk, listen when you need someone to talk to or even guard your house. A pet can also lower your blood pressure, change your heart rate or alleviate feelings of chronic loneliness.

With your capacity to love your pet comes the necessity to grieve when that "best friend" dies. The death of a pet is, without a doubt, a traumatic experience. The following information is intended to help you and your family acknowledge the need to grieve at this time and to do so in a healthy way.

Death is Significant

No, It's not "just a cat" or "just a dog." The animal is a family member. With the death of your pet, the family experiences a significant loss. A difficult problem, however, is that society often denies you the need to grieve for your pet. You may even be chastised for openly and honestly expressing your feelings. As a result, your grief may be hidden, buried or ignored.

Although denied understanding and support, your family needs to grieve the death of your pet. Grieving means to express your feeling, no matter how painful, outside of yourselves.
Cliches Don't Help You Heal

Your family will probably be greeted with many cliches when your pet dies. Cliches are trite comments intended to diminish the loss by providing simple solutions to difficult realities. Comments like, "It was just a cat" or "You can always get another one," or "Be glad you don't have to take care of him any more" are not constructive. Instead they hurt and make your family's journey through grief more difficult.
Memories Are The Best Legacies

Memories are one of the best legacies after the death of a pet. Talk about and embrace these memories. Your pet entertained, comforted, frustrated but always loved you. Remember those times. If your memories bring laughter, smile. If they bring sadness, cry. Remember, though, memories made in love can never be taken away.
Your Emotions Will Vary

When your pet dies, you will probably experience a variety of emotions: confusion, disorganization, sadness, explosive emotions or guilt. Don't repress these feelings and ignore anyone who tells you that you should. Don't over-analyze your response. Just allow your feeling to find expression. As strange as some of these feelings may seem, they are normal and healthy.

Each family member probably had a unique relationship with the pet. Allow for different emotional responses within the family, and be careful to respect each person's need to grieve in his or her own way.
Should You Choose Euthanasia

When you love your pet, no question is more difficult than whether or not to euthanize. Yet this difficult choice is often the right one, particularly if your pet is in agonizing pain or the quality of life has deteriorated. Sometimes the cost of the treatment for a particular disease has also become prohibitive.

Talk to your veterinarian about euthanasia. Fortunately, humane procedures can end needless suffering for both you and your pet. The intravenous drug used for euthanasia does not cause pain. After visiting with your vet, make your decision based on your own good judgment. If you have always treated your pet with gentleness and love, you will probably make a wise choice based upon the reality of the situation.

Some owners want to be present when their pets are euthanized. Some do not. Do what you feel is right for you and the family. Whichever choice you make, you may still want to spend some special time saying "goodbye" to your pet.
Rituals Can Be Helpful

Allowing and encouraging your family to have a funeral for the pet that has died can be helpful. It provides a time to acknowledge the loss, share memories of the pet and create a focus for the family to openly express emotions. While some friends or even family members may think having a funeral for your pet is foolish, don't let them take this special time away. Design a ritual that best meets your needs as you gather to pay tribute to a pet who was and always will be loved.
Children Need To Be Involved

The death of a pet is often the first opportunity parents have to help children during times of grief. Unfortunately, parents often don't want to talk about the death assuming that by doing so the children will be spared some of the pain and sadness.

Children, however, are entitled to grieve for their pets. Any child old enough to love is old enough to grieve. And many children love their pets with all their hearts. As an adult, if you are open, honest and loving, experiencing the death of a pet can be a chance for children to learn about both the joy - and the pain - that comes from caring deeply for pets or for people.

You may not experience the same depth of loss as your children when a family pet dies. You must still respect their grief and allow them to express it without feeling abandoned. Your response during this time can make the difference whether children's first exposure in death will be a positive or a negative part of their personal growth and development.
Premature Replacement Can Cause Problems
The temptation after the death of a pet may be to run out and get another one right away. In fact, you are often encouraged to do so by family and friends. Although it may sound like a good idea, you should be careful about premature replacement.

You need time to grieve and to heal when your pet dies. A new pet demands your energy and attention which at some point you may be ready and willing to give. Right now, however, you should first attend to your grief.

Be especially careful about premature replacement of pets with children. It sends a message to a child that says when something is lost all that you have to do is buy another one. In reality, that is often not the case. It also devalues the significance of the pet that just died.

While there is no specific timetable for when to get a new pet, when in doubt - wait. Allow for additional healing to occur. When the family is ready for a new pet, involve the children in the discussion and selection so they can feel a part of the decision.

Some Closing Thoughts About The Death Of A Pet

Hopefully, this information has helped you understand why your family grieves so deeply when a beloved pet dies. Pets don't criticize or judge you. They just love and accept you unconditionally,

When a pet dies, you and your family must accept the need to grieve. Even though others around you may attempt to minimize your grief, the hurt must be embraced to be lessened. Be patient and tolerant as you slowly move toward healing.
About The Author

DDr. Alan D. Wolfelt, a noted author, educator and practicing clinical thanatologist.


To Be Owned By A Cat

A cat is the ideal baby surrogate,

a Peter Pan who never grows up

and provides constant satisfaction

for our mothering instincts.

Akif Pirincci & Rolf Degen


Precious Lives

It is so unfortunate that cats do not know how to cross the street.

It would only seem right that humans, who have the ability to think, be more tolerant and compassionate to these poor, defenseless creatures. Trucks and other motor vehicles just plow down the streets without a thought to the animals they kill and the hearts of the owners that they break. They do not see the terror in the eyes of these animals, and after they pass through these soft, broken bodies, they don't care that they take away a life which has much a right to live as they.

What would it cost to show a little compassion?